All women should read this - Don't get caught
1. The first thing men look for
in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after
a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can
easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with
long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2. The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around to cut clothing.
3. They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they
are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4. The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman
is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5. The number one place women are abducted from or attacked at is
grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages.
Number three is public restrooms.
6. The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't
have to worry about getting caught.
7. Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8. If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realise that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9. These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,
or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their
hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close
to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince
these guys you're not worth it.
10. Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator
or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like
what time is it. Or make general small talk, I can't believe it
is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen
their face and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal
as a target.
11. If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front
of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man
talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed
that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking
for an EASY target.
12. If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate
of it and carries it with him wherever he goes, yelling I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13. If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but
you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist
from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the
elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman
in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch
on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset that she
broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands and the guy needed
stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can
stand it; it hurts.
14. After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from
a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts
it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy
and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists
told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause
a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15. When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
16. Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware
of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you
see any odd behaviour, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts.
You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse
if the guy really was trouble.
17. A safety expert was
interviewed on Oprah's show, and he stresses that if someone gets
in the car with you, even with a gun or knife, tells you to drive
somewhere - run into a wall, another car, a lamppost, something!
He will more than likely jump out and run like hell. If he ever
gets you in a secluded area, you ae DEAD! So a damaged car is better
than being dead.